Guys wanting it both ways

Boyfriend, girlfriend.  Guy doesn’t want children, gal does. Seemingly oblivious that sex can result in pregnancy, he doesn’t want or like to use condoms. He knows she doesn’t take birth control.

She gets pregnant. He doesn’t want it, she does. Unbeknown to her, he gives her RU-486, causing a miscarriage. Although he has been arrested and charged, I feel the charges are incorrect. (Can’t ‘murder’ an embryo, but we will leave that for another time.) He should have been charged with dispensing medications without a medical license, reckless endangerment, or whatever charges can be filed for illegally drugging someone.

But what got me was the comments.

“She should have kept her legs closed.”
“She knew he didn’t want children, so it’s 100% her responsibility if she gets pregnant”
“Unless it was rape, she takes full responsibility for the pregnancy.”

What th hell?  How about this:

“He should have kept his fly zipped.”
“Sex results in pregnancy. Don’t want that, kept it tucked, or put a cap on it.”
“His right to what is done with that sperm ends when it leaves his body, and enters her vaginal vault.”
“Took two to create a pregnancy, both parties are responsible.”

I raised both my sons this way. I also told them should they do other than the above four statements, it wouldn’t be the law they would have to be afraid of… it would be me.

But you get a flurry of men who still want to rule women. Men who don’t want women to have the right to choose what to do about unplanned pregnancy, force her to carry to term. Then you get men who want to force women to abort (or drug her to miscarry) because he decided sex shouldn’t result in pregnancy.  There are examples of men killing their pregnant girlfriends, and while in prison, calling it a “child support adjustment”. No joke.

When are these knuckle dragging Neanderthals going to be made extinct?  When the HELL are these double standards going to %#$@%# stop!

About Sandra

Passenger on a blue marble, circling yellow star. Dancer, astronomer, technogeek, coffee lover, pagan, photographer.. not necessarily in this order.
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